what friendzone

this term somehow started to exist in recent years. or maybe i just didn’t hear of it when i was in primary or secondary school.. where crush and infatuation are really common around. friendzone. well, obviously it is an invisible zone where one puts friends who he/she will never ever date in. it is constantly stereotyped as something that girls usually do to guys, leading to the latter to consider twice whenever he is interested in a girl. getting too close may back-fire him into the friendzone. 

okay, maybe i am bias considering that i am a male but yeah you know the friendzone. anyway, couple of us were talking about it recently and i thought it would be rather interesting to talk about it more here. first and foremost, i am the voice of nobody but myself. in other words, whatever i say is my personal opinion and it does not represent any group of people or what not.. so keep an open mind yeah.

so the golden question.. the answer is no, i don’t go friendzone my female friends for a couple of reasons. i find this categorisation rather redundant and i need not draw such a distinct line between any of them.

i would always say “hey, she is my close friend” or “hey, she is just my friend”. for crying out loud. saying she is just a friend is not friendzone-ing the person. i think friendzone is more harsh.. like one would set up a barrier between the opposite party and have that safeguard. for me, i prefer to be open and not set up such walls and drawing such lines. on top of that, i say i need not draw such a distinct line is because, while touching the bottom of my heart, i know how i see each of my female friends. as in, i believe in trusting your own instincts. kind of difficult to explain.. but yeah i follow instincts and just rather not to have to categorise them into the friendzone and what not to remind myself of our relationship.

anyway, different people would approach such a thing really differently. like i said earlier, i do not represent any group of people besides me, myself and i. food for thought.. that’s it.

stones grow her name

a tribute to the power metal and heavy metal band Sonata Arctica. if you are interested you can try listening to the album that this song is from.. it is titled "Stones Grow Her Name".

red lobster

yes this is an update of my life.

your life sucks when you fall sick just when the weekdays end. well that is me now. still in the midst of recovering form my fever which has been going on and off since two days ago. spamming water and anything related to lime or lemon over the days. toilet visits were frequent but nonetheless i hope whatever i am doing is helping my body. been sleeping a lot as well. so much so i have yet to revise or catch up on my work since Thursday.. starting to feel guilty already. really hope i can be 100% healthy really soon.

despite my not perfect health, i still headed to support and do duty for the frisbee carnival. now i am officially a red lobster after baking in the scorching sun all day. silly me of not bringing sun block and my shades. i foresee painful skin in subsequent days. gosh.