warriors

in a mood for such a song..

suddenly tired

the title of this post is the direct translation of a beautiful chinese song sung by a talented Singapore singer.. if you are a Singaporean and you don't know him.. you aren't real Singaporean.

during difficult times

well, we all face such times. difficult times, of course, from the title. yes, we have them once in a while for whatever silly or unforeseen reasons. nonetheless, what i have always learned from these times, besides self-discovery, is that we should be mindful of the three groups of people.

1) people who put you into those difficult times

2) people who helped you through those difficult times

3) people who are there with you until difficult times

people from the first group should be taken note not for revenge. yes, let me be clear.. revenge is a vicious cycle so nope. so what's the point of taking note then? well, taking note of them will benefit you in the long run. now you know those are the people that can't be trusted at all. from simple favors to hanging out, it will never be worth it to look for them. sounds a little harsh but personally, i probably would give them one or couple of chances before cutting loose. everyone deserves a chance at minimum.. so yeah.

people form the second group should be taken seriously and treasured. they are friends to be kept for life. on top of that, remember to stand-by them in times they are in a similar situation with you when they helped you. such people are rare so yeah do treasure them and embrace them.

people from the third group should be noted but not harshly marked or what. they are still your dear friends but probably now you know that you can't really rely on them too much in the future. personally, i would maintain our relationship, improve it if possible.

so yeah, those are my personal point of view. i bet everyone has his/her individual take on such a subject so it is up to you at the end of the day.