Monday, October 17, 2016

lazy and ignorant

i'm neither young nor old right now. i am not old enough to say that i have walked most parts of a typical person's life. i am not that young to say that there is a lot of things i am unaware of or that i don't really get. i'm a the age where i am very conscious about the things passing them day in day out. having been through few stages in life and meeting many different kinds of people.. i have naturally come to realise the type of people i like and the type that i don't. well for like part most of us probably have similar "criteria". for people i don't like.. yeah you have guessed it.. are those who are lazy and/or ignorant.

hmm.. maybe if you possess one of the two traits, still not that bad. however, if you possesses both.. chances are i won't see eye to eye with you when we start to hang out or work together.

being lazy. no, at this time and age, one cannot be lazy. no one is going to feed you forever. in school, you rely on parents for some of the expenses and on friends to help you. yes, when you are out there fighting on the corporate ladder, you aren't alone.. there are friends and colleagues to help. however, personal mishaps and mistakes occur and then who will be the one bearing the entire burden or the very least.. most of the burden? who holds the key.. the last and most crucial key to push yourself forward? yes, you and only you. being lazy only leads you to be really a burden after a while. everyone has his/her own battles to fight. you cannot expect everyone to always fight your battles. it is your life. your shit has be dealt by yourself. otherwise, you can just rot until the end of your life. to spot a lazy person is really simple, the smallest habit of laziness can be a clue. check yourself now and then. everyone has to.. unless you are too damn lazy to care about yourself.

being ignorant. no, ignorant is not bliss. being ignorant means either you refuse to care about something that is affecting you or you choose to barricade yourself in your own fantasy world. not being ignorant doesn't lead to being a busybody. ignorant here means caring less about the things you ought to care. no, you no need me to remind you what these are. i assume you are about my age or older when you are reading this. you ought to figure those by now. otherwise, you can continue to sit in your own corner and wait for life to slap you really hard.

a combination of the two would mean one has yet to grow up to deal with his/her own business. yeah, as kids previously, we were all carefree. but not now.. being lazy and ignorant is not healthy. understand that the world owes you nothing. everything you want and wish to have is all up to your own bare hands. pardon me if i am crude but this reminder is less painful than a slap from life.

Sunday, October 16, 2016

unwanted firsts

yes this is an update on my life.

whoever says NS is only two years are so oblivious and stupid. NS is more than just the two years of full-time service. upon ORD, one is expected to clear IPPT yearly, clear 10 to 15 cycles of reservists, be ready on stand-by during mob manning periods.. until the age of earliest 40.

the reason i brought this up is because within this year alone, i experienced reservist and mobilisation. well, in July i had reservist where the now fatter men went back to do the same training we did when we were younger. just yesterday, we were mobilised to report back to camp just to burn our Saturday away. yeah true while NS open doors to meeting new precious friendships and force us to have a break from the day in day out mundane work, but at what cost? people who bluntly say NS is only 2 years or being men is good in Singapore.. ponder on that thought first.

relax, i'm not against it or what. just bringing the point of having different things to experience will bring about good and bad effects. while people tend to focus on the good points, at times it is essential to check the costs. until next time then, cheers.

Friday, October 14, 2016

eight years

came across an interesting blog post weeks ago but forgot to post here until earlier when i saw the link save somewhere on my laptop. so thought i would share it now.. well, better late than never. go ahead and enjoy.

8 years after "I do"

"Marriage is a lot of hard work. It is choosing to listen to your spouse when all you want to do is scroll your Facebook timeline (again, my husband’s words). It is choosing to be interested in your spouse’s day even though yours was as sucky as hell. It is choosing to spend time together even though you really crave for some me time after being hounded by a relentless toddler the whole day. It is swallowing down your temporary anger and resentment, and choosing to be kind instead. It is choosing not to keep scores, and to go the extra mile instead."