chances

mistakes. we have all made them and we will be making numerous more in time to come anyway. nonetheless, the knee-jerk reaction when one realizes he/she has made a mistake would be apologizing. otherwise, after certain prompting, he/she would as well.

well, the main point i would like to highlight today is about giving them the chances. to begin off, personally i find those who apologize for the sake of doing so to get by quickly deserve to be smack in the face. if you do not intend to be sincere, don't bother trying. if you are, show so. for a start, yeah if you are insulted or what not, make sure you feel right about the aggravator's apology before moving on.

so moving on, here is the part where it gets tricky. people are all about second chances and of course i totally agree to that, no matter how big a mistake it is. however, as human beings, we have something called empathy and would at times go beyond second chances. a third, a fourth, a fifth chance.. so on and so forth. so how many chances would we have to give before we say that it is enough and here is where forgiving should stop.

personally, i realise i do so in relation to how close the person is to me and how bad the mistake is. these two factors are taken together no mutually exclusive. not sure about you all but i find that after some time and numerous chances given, the same old apology seemed less meaningful and sincere no matter how the opposing party put it. when one apologizes, i take it as a call to change after knowing he/she was definitely in the wrong. so if it is repetitive, what do the past apologies actually mean?

haha okay this entire issue is just a food for thought.